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WHAT.

"This put a strange Whim in his Head; which was, to get the hairy circle of [a prostitute's] Merkin .... This he dry'd well, and comb'd out, and then return'd to the Cardinall, telling him, he had brought St. Peter's Beard." [Alexander Smith, "A Complete History of the Lives and Robberies of the most notorious Highwaymen," 1714]

If Robbery Victims Were Treated Like Rape Victims

1. The victim's expensive suit, watch and nice home would be cited as tempting robbers beyond human endurance.
2. The victim's spouse, family, friends, and representatives of the victim's religion and favorite charities would be called in to testify that the victim frequently gave money willingly (even enjoyed it!).
3. The victim's name would be withheld because it is shameful to be robbed.
4. The victim would be blamed for having money or a home where robberies are known to occur.
5. The victim would be photographed nude by strangers in white coats.
6. If the victim knew the robber, it would be automatically assumed that the items or money taken were actually gifts by the victim to the robber.
7. The victim would be quizzed about how much the victim resisted the alleged robbery and required to show proof of struggle.
8. The victim's checkbook, bank records, and tax returns would be subpoenaed and submitted as evidence the victim has given, spent, and lost money and property foolishly before.
9. The robber would sincerely testify that since the victim left the door unlocked, the robber naturally thought the victim wanted to be robbed.
10. The robber would sincerely testify that it wasn't robbery. They were just having "rough giving" together.
11. Robbery victims would be suspected of going through all of the above just to get attention or to harm the honor of the robber.
12. Society would think none of the above is strange.

(By John Ramsey, Copyright 1991, permission given to non-profit use as long as this by-line is included.)

Myths about sexual assault persist, and they are damaging to survivors and dangerous in a civil society that needs to better understand sexual violence and its impact on our communities. Some of the most common myths, along with facts that dispel them are: MYTH: Sexual assault is a crime of passion and lust. FACT: Sexual assault is a crime of violence. Assailants seek to dominate, humiliate and punish their victims. MYTH: You cannot be assaulted against your will. FACT: Assailants overpower their victims with the threat of violence or with actual violence. Especially in cases of acquaintance rape or incest, an assailant often uses the victim's trust in him to isolate her. MYTH: It is impossible for a husband to sexually assault his wife. FACT: Regardless of marital or social relationship, if a woman does not consent to sexual activity, she is being sexually assaulted. In fact, 14% of women are victims of rape committed by their husband. MYTH: A person who has really been assaulted will be hysterical. FACT: Survivors exhibit a spectrum of emotional responses to assault: calm, hysteria, laughter, anger, apathy, shock. Each survivor copes with the trauma of the assault in a different way. MYTH: Sexual assault is an impulsive act. FACT: Seventy-five percent of all assaults are planned in advance. When three or more assailants are involved, 90% are planned. If two assailants are involved, 83% are planned. With one assailant, 58% are planned. MYTH: Assailants are usually crazed psychopaths who do not know their victims. FACT: As many as 80% of all assaults involve acquaintances. An assailant might be someone you know intimately. He may be a coworker, a friend or a family member. MYTH: Gang rape is rare. FACT: In 43% of all reported cases, more than one assailant was involved. MYTH: Many women claim that they have been sexually assaulted because they want revenge upon the man they accuse. FACT: Only 4-6% of sexual assault cases are based on false accusation. This percentage of unsubstantiated cases is the same as with many other reported crimes. MYTH: Persons who dress or act in a "sexy" way are asking to be sexually assaulted. FACT: Many convicted sexual assailants are unable to remember what their victims looked like or were wearing. Nothing a person does or does not do causes a brutal crime like sexual assault. MYTH: In most cases, black men attack white women. FACT: In most sexual assault cases, the assailant and his victim are of the same racial background. MYTH: Only young, pretty women are assaulted. FACT: Survivors range in age from infancy to old age, and their appearance is seldom a consideration. Assailants often choose victims who seem most vulnerable to attack: old persons, children, physically or emotionally disabled persons, substance abusers, and street persons. Men are also attacked. MYTH: It is impossible to sexually assault a man. FACT: Men fall victim for the same reasons as women: they are overwhelmed by threats or acts of physical and emotional violence. Also, most sexual assaults that involve an adult male victim are gang assaults. MYTH: As long as children remember to stay away from strangers, they are in no danger of being assaulted. FACT: Sadly, children are usually assaulted by acquaintances, a family member or other caretaking adult. Children are usually coerced into sexual activity by their assailant, and are manipulated into silence by the assailant's threats and/or promises, as well as their own feelings of guilt. MYTH: There's not much we can do to change any of this. It's always been this way. FACT: Volunteer at your local rape crisis center. Protest inappropriate representations of women. Support advocacy groups that are working on behalf of victims. Or write a letter to the editor if your local paper publishes a "victim blaming" editorial piece. It doesn't matter if you're a man or a woman. What matters is that you stand up, speak out and join us in the fight to end sexual violence.